Couples therapy
Just like everything else, some extra attention every now and then makes your relationship flourish. In every long term relationship partners start to relate to each other in patterns. These patterns may feel comfortable but are killing your spontaneity, your creativity and intimacy in the relationship. As a result you either start live more along side each other or end up with more conflicts. This is a suffocating dance and the only way out is with professional help. Most couples say that facing the difficulties in the relationship has given them more connection with themselves and with their partner.
Together we guide couples in learning to see their patterns. With a combination of talking and specific exercises you gain insight in your patterns of relating and protecting and you make contact with the feelings and emotions underneath. In this process you become more grounded and regain your power, things will really shift: Love will flow again! To look at yourself and your relationship in this way turns a relationship into an authentic relationship.
As certified couple therapists in Embodied Couples Mentoring (ECM) and Emotionally Focussed couples Therapy (EFT), we guide you in our own specific way. In combination with various other trainings like constellation and trauma work and our personal experience with profound processes, this forms the solid foundation of your work with us toward deeper connection and lifelines.
Should the outcome be that love has left the relationship, it is important for all involved to end the love-relationship in a good way. That will open the doorway for partners to continue life in a different direction.
About us
We met each other in 1987 and got married in 1989, which means that we personally know the path of a long term committed relationship, which can be characterised by phases: being in love, discovering parents, individual development, focus on career, feeling stuck and finding oneself and each other again. In retrospect difficult times appeared to have contributed to a deepening of our relationship.
The willingness to grow is as essential as love and intimacy itself. This creates a growth not only of oneself but also of the relationship; surprising yourself and your partner time after time again. Walking this path together creates an authentic relationship, which is nothing like a fairy tale relationship without any conflicts. It's a relationship in which partners show the willingness to take emotional risks and can contain whatever comes up. This is what keeps yourself and your relationship alive!
Testimonials
"The couples therapy has been a gift to our relationship."
-E&J
"We feel more at ease and more happy than ever before. Thank you so much!"
- GJB
"You two are a strong partner-team!"
- MvN